Can't get with this one, Alan. If a man has to be someone else, even in the name of whatever it is we feminism, it takes selflessness a bit past the line.
Or as one fellow put it: I'll anything for love, but I won't do that.
When I was in the swinging thing, I met a woman who was married but had a thing for BBC. Call me "behind the curve," but if my wife wanted that, she'd get the legal documents with a note saying "Go find what you want. I'm going to find what wants me."